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Category Archives: Mediation


Is Divorce Stress Making You Sick?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you’re in the midst of a separation or divorce, you’re probably no stranger to stress — but did you know that the higher conflict your divorce is, the more it puts your health at risk?  This Psychology Today article is not new — but it offers a useful tool for recognizing hidden stress-points… Read More »

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Paying for College: 3 Things Divorcing Parents Should Do

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Your child has met the college application deadline and the acceptances are rolling in… but for divorcing parents there’s another worry: How are college expenses to be paid and by whom? States do not impose an obligation on parents to pay for their children’s college expenses and these costs are not normally included in… Read More »


Dating Before the Decree: Why it Pays to Wait

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

In a previous post, I offered tips for dating while separated. That article provides guidance to couples who agree that dating while separated is okay. But what rules apply when only one spouse thinks it’s okay to date before the divorce is final? Let’s consider the case of John and Mary. Recently separated, John had… Read More »


The “Quick & Dirty” on Dating While Separated

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you and your spouse are separated and you’re feeling anxious to meet someone new… this Valentine’s Day might have you wondering whether, and when, it’s okay to date. Having a conversation about dating is difficult but important to do before either spouse ventures out on dates. Back by popular demand, I’m re-posting a… Read More »


Do Misrepresentations in Divorce Corp Undermine Needed Change?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Divorce Corp: Proceed with Caution After viewing the Divorce Corp trailers, I wrote in my last article that I hoped the documentary would generate a national dialog about how our family law system could better serve families in transition – and, in particular, encourage alternatives to courtroom battle as the norm. Since then, I’ve… Read More »


Coming Soon: Divorce Corp the Movie

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Family Law Professionals Beware:  A new documentary set to debut on January 10, 2014 purports to expose appalling excesses and injustices rampant in the U.S. family law system. The documentary, Divorce Corp, portrays the American divorce litigation system as a multi-billion dollar industry that takes advantage of vulnerable people and leaves a world of… Read More »

Amicable Divorce

3 Tips for an Amicable Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Each year, in the first week of January, the office phone in my family and divorce mediation practice begins to ring more often. This is the time of year when I hear from people who have made a resolution to bring a peaceful end to their marriage. Often, by the time they call me,… Read More »


Four Strategies for Mediating a High Conflict Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Sometimes people assume that the only way to handle their divorce with a high conflict partner is to “lawyer up” and “buckle down” for the roller coaster ride. Statistically, this approach leads to increased conflict and less satisfaction with the results. There are also enormous financial and emotional costs, which can be compounded when… Read More »


Does “Mediator Certification” Matter?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

  Yes and No. In the mediation world, practitioners debate whether mediators ought to be certified and, if so, how to do it. Some courts allow only “certified mediators” to be placed on court rosters, but most simply require that mediators have completed a 40-hour training class. And in the private sector, there are no… Read More »

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Getting Out of the Emotional Rut: Finding the Road to Peace

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Divorce is one of life’s major traumas.  On the famous Holmes and Rahe stress scale, divorce is the second biggest stressor after death of a spouse.  At the same time, the trauma of divorce usually goes hand-in-hand with other stressors on the scale, ranging from moving out of the family home to facing a reduced… Read More »


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