Category Archives: Communication
As a family mediator, I specialize in divorce. That doesn’t make me an expert on marriage, but I’ve gained some valuable insights over the years. Paradoxical though it seems, I believe that one key to achieving a good divorce is also the secret to a happy marriage. Couples that succeed in “conscious uncoupling” tend… Read More »
If you’re in the midst of a separation or divorce, you’re probably no stranger to stress — but did you know that the higher conflict your divorce is, the more it puts your health at risk? This Psychology Today article is not new — but it offers a useful tool for recognizing hidden stress-points… Read More »
Sometimes people assume that the only way to handle their divorce with a high conflict partner is to “lawyer up” and “buckle down” for the roller coaster ride. Statistically, this approach leads to increased conflict and less satisfaction with the results. There are also enormous financial and emotional costs, which can be compounded when… Read More »
One of the first questions I ask my clients is “Has there been a decision to divorce?” I ask because couples seek help at various stages of their marriage crisis. Sometimes both people are quite sure they’re ready for divorce. Often, only one person is. And sometimes, neither party is sure they want a divorce, but… Read More »
What do conflict coaching and mediation have in common? Like mediation, the conflict coaching process is voluntary, confidential and involves a neutral facilitator to address ways to resolve conflict; but divorce mediation helps two or more people arrive at mutual agreements whereas conflict coaching helps one party understand and manage conflict.
Most people seeking a divorce want to do it as cooperatively, quickly and inexpensively as possible. That’s what they say and, I believe, that’s what they mean. But in my experience, well-meaning people can fall into a trap that will always, consistently, deepen the conflict, prolong the divorce process, and wind up costing them… Read More »
The holidays can be an especially stressful time when you are going through a separation or divorce. It’s hard to get into the holiday spirit when your family is in limbo or separated and you’re feeling anxious, or angry, or hurt. But there are many ways that parents can create happy holiday memories for… Read More »