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What Is a Fair Divorce Financial Settlement? Child Support & Alimony Come Down to Dollars and Sense

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

When it comes to alimony and child support, most divorcing couples are concerned that their agreement be fair. However, in my experience as a divorce mediator, both parties are most successful when they focus on the dollars first, rather than the sense. In other words, focus on what’s possible as a prelude to discussing… Read More »

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Is Divorce Stress Making You Sick?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you’re in the midst of a separation or divorce, you’re probably no stranger to stress — but did you know that the higher conflict your divorce is, the more it puts your health at risk?  This Psychology Today article is not new — but it offers a useful tool for recognizing hidden stress-points… Read More »

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Four Strategies for Mediating a High Conflict Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Sometimes people assume that the only way to handle their divorce with a high conflict partner is to “lawyer up” and “buckle down” for the roller coaster ride. Statistically, this approach leads to increased conflict and less satisfaction with the results. There are also enormous financial and emotional costs, which can be compounded when… Read More »

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Want to Avoid a Long Divorce?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

The 17-year long divorce proceedings of two law professors in Ohio have been highly publicized in the news recently. While their protracted case made headlines, most of us have heard a story or two about a horrible divorce that went on for years – and years. Here are some of the issues a couple,… Read More »

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Is Mediation Appropriate for Couples Who Want to Reconcile?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

One of the first questions I ask my clients is “Has there been a decision to divorce?”  I ask because couples seek help at various stages of their marriage crisis. Sometimes both people are quite sure they’re ready for divorce. Often, only one person is. And sometimes, neither party is sure they want a divorce, but… Read More »

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An International Parenting Plan for Hannah

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Eliza is an American, who works for an international aid agency. She is about to embark on a two-year assignment in Jordan. Peter is German. He is an economist with plans to return to his home country to teach at a university. Together, they are trying to work out custody for their six- year-old… Read More »

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International Divorce and Parenting Across Borders

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Today, we live in a global society where international marriages and divorces are increasingly prevalent. While the international marriage may no longer work, the international family is forever. This article will address the parenting and relocation issues unique to international couples going through divorce. It is not unusual for one or both parents to… Read More »

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The Role of Conflict Coaching in Divorce Mediation

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

What do conflict coaching and mediation have in common? Like mediation, the conflict coaching process is voluntary, confidential and involves a neutral facilitator to address ways to resolve conflict; but divorce mediation helps two or more people arrive at mutual agreements whereas conflict coaching helps one party understand and manage conflict.  

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Divorce and the 18-Wheeler

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Most people seeking a divorce want to do it as cooperatively, quickly and inexpensively as possible.  That’s what they say and, I believe, that’s what they mean.  But in my experience, well-meaning people can fall into a trap that will always, consistently, deepen the conflict, prolong the divorce process, and wind up costing them… Read More »

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7 Reasons Your Spouse Might Agree to Divorce Mediation

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

I can’t tell you how many times I receive phone calls from people seeking an uncontested divorce in Maryland, DC or Virginia, but don’t know how to get their spouse to participate in mediation. Maybe the spouse is too angry or hurt or skeptical to try mediation. Maybe they already have a lawyer who… Read More »

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