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Category Archives: Separation


Is Divorce Stress Making You Sick?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you’re in the midst of a separation or divorce, you’re probably no stranger to stress — but did you know that the higher conflict your divorce is, the more it puts your health at risk?  This Psychology Today article is not new — but it offers a useful tool for recognizing hidden stress-points… Read More »


Dating Before the Decree: Why it Pays to Wait

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

In a previous post, I offered tips for dating while separated. That article provides guidance to couples who agree that dating while separated is okay. But what rules apply when only one spouse thinks it’s okay to date before the divorce is final? Let’s consider the case of John and Mary. Recently separated, John had… Read More »


The “Quick & Dirty” on Dating While Separated

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you and your spouse are separated and you’re feeling anxious to meet someone new… this Valentine’s Day might have you wondering whether, and when, it’s okay to date. Having a conversation about dating is difficult but important to do before either spouse ventures out on dates. Back by popular demand, I’m re-posting a… Read More »

Amicable Divorce

3 Tips for an Amicable Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Each year, in the first week of January, the office phone in my family and divorce mediation practice begins to ring more often. This is the time of year when I hear from people who have made a resolution to bring a peaceful end to their marriage. Often, by the time they call me,… Read More »


Sites That Encourage Heroic Co-Parenting

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

My last post addressed the importance of children having access to both parents who are separated or divorced. But here’s the rub… Co-parenting with your “Ex” can be especially challenging as you navigate the new, prickly terrain of separation and divorce. Often it takes a heroic act to put conflict aside and put children’s… Read More »


Four Strategies for Mediating a High Conflict Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Sometimes people assume that the only way to handle their divorce with a high conflict partner is to “lawyer up” and “buckle down” for the roller coaster ride. Statistically, this approach leads to increased conflict and less satisfaction with the results. There are also enormous financial and emotional costs, which can be compounded when… Read More »

in the crack

Getting Out of the Emotional Rut: Finding the Road to Peace

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Divorce is one of life’s major traumas.  On the famous Holmes and Rahe stress scale, divorce is the second biggest stressor after death of a spouse.  At the same time, the trauma of divorce usually goes hand-in-hand with other stressors on the scale, ranging from moving out of the family home to facing a reduced… Read More »


Want to Avoid a Long Divorce?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

The 17-year long divorce proceedings of two law professors in Ohio have been highly publicized in the news recently. While their protracted case made headlines, most of us have heard a story or two about a horrible divorce that went on for years – and years. Here are some of the issues a couple,… Read More »


Five Tips for Dating During Separation

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

So you and your spouse are separated. You’re living in your own place. Your spouse is living somewhere else. You’re waiting out the requisite year of separation to file for divorce, but you’re feeling antsy to move on with your life, to meet someone else, to date. … It’s not unusual at this juncture… Read More »


Is Mediation Appropriate for Couples Who Want to Reconcile?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

One of the first questions I ask my clients is “Has there been a decision to divorce?”  I ask because couples seek help at various stages of their marriage crisis. Sometimes both people are quite sure they’re ready for divorce. Often, only one person is. And sometimes, neither party is sure they want a divorce, but… Read More »


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