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What Is a Fair Divorce Financial Settlement? Child Support & Alimony Come Down to Dollars and Sense

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

When it comes to alimony and child support, most divorcing couples are concerned that their agreement be fair. However, in my experience as a divorce mediator, both parties are most successful when they focus on the dollars first, rather than the sense. In other words, focus on what’s possible as a prelude to discussing… Read More »

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Paying for College: 3 Things Divorcing Parents Should Do

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Your child has met the college application deadline and the acceptances are rolling in… but for divorcing parents there’s another worry: How are college expenses to be paid and by whom? States do not impose an obligation on parents to pay for their children’s college expenses and these costs are not normally included in… Read More »

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Dating Before the Decree: Why it Pays to Wait

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

In a previous post, I offered tips for dating while separated. That article provides guidance to couples who agree that dating while separated is okay. But what rules apply when only one spouse thinks it’s okay to date before the divorce is final? Let’s consider the case of John and Mary. Recently separated, John had… Read More »

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The “Quick & Dirty” on Dating While Separated

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

If you and your spouse are separated and you’re feeling anxious to meet someone new… this Valentine’s Day might have you wondering whether, and when, it’s okay to date. Having a conversation about dating is difficult but important to do before either spouse ventures out on dates. Back by popular demand, I’m re-posting a… Read More »

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Coming Soon: Divorce Corp the Movie

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Family Law Professionals Beware:  A new documentary set to debut on January 10, 2014 purports to expose appalling excesses and injustices rampant in the U.S. family law system. The documentary, Divorce Corp, portrays the American divorce litigation system as a multi-billion dollar industry that takes advantage of vulnerable people and leaves a world of… Read More »

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3 Tips for an Amicable Divorce

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Each year, in the first week of January, the office phone in my family and divorce mediation practice begins to ring more often. This is the time of year when I hear from people who have made a resolution to bring a peaceful end to their marriage. Often, by the time they call me,… Read More »

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Sites That Encourage Heroic Co-Parenting

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

My last post addressed the importance of children having access to both parents who are separated or divorced. But here’s the rub… Co-parenting with your “Ex” can be especially challenging as you navigate the new, prickly terrain of separation and divorce. Often it takes a heroic act to put conflict aside and put children’s… Read More »

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The Best Gift for Kids in Divorce: Access to Both Parents

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

Several studies have shown that children point to “loss of a parent” as the most harmful consequence of their mother and father divorcing. Most often the “lost parent” is Dad. Traditionally, mothers have tended to be gatekeepers, and when trust in a marriage is lost, fathers often see the gates close to them. Sometimes… Read More »

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An Expert’s Advice on Insuring Child Support & Alimony

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

People typically know that the cash value of a Whole Life insurance policy can be a marital asset and subject to division on divorce. But term life insurance and disability insurance are often overlooked in divorce negotiations since they accrue no cash value.  That’s a big mistake, especially when there is child support or… Read More »

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Does “Mediator Certification” Matter?

By Eileen Coen, J.D.

  Yes and No. In the mediation world, practitioners debate whether mediators ought to be certified and, if so, how to do it. Some courts allow only “certified mediators” to be placed on court rosters, but most simply require that mediators have completed a 40-hour training class. And in the private sector, there are no… Read More »

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